Introduction
What do you think you need to do to marry well?
What do you think is wrong with marriage today? What’s broken? What’s missing? What’s missing? What can we do to fix it and make it more fulfilling, more rewarding, and more beautiful?
What do you think you need to do to marry well?
We all have standards for romantic love. We all have standards for marriage. We all have standards for life. But what if they weren't so different? What if they were the same thing, just different ways of looking at them, that could be done differently, in different ways, and done better by better people than anyone else ever has or ever will. I'm asking that question because I want everyone to be happy with who they marry and what they marry into.
I'm asking it because I want everyone to get married so that nobody ends up single in the first place.
Wouldn't it be nice if everyone married someone who was exactly like them in every way but one: just as smart as them but not as good looking; just as funny but not as funny; just as sensible but not as sensible; just as successful but not as successful; just as kind-hearted but not kinder; just as generous but not generous; just as humble but not humble." - Audrey Hepburn
If we are going to get married…that's the most important thing we need to know about each other before we even start dating… ______________________________________________________ "You'll never meet somebody who's going through life without any goals or a dream" ~ Audrey Hepburn ______________________________________________________
I hope the above helps. Have fun reading!
Middle-Aged Wife and her 15 Minute Workout
What are your thoughts on the state of marriage? How does it feel to be middle aged and married? What are the biggest differences between being married and single and those of an “old” age? What is your relationship like with your spouse? Are there any keys to making it work? Are there any time-saving tips for getting through these big changes??
For a long time I thought that the key to making it work as a married couple was simply keeping things together. I still believe this. I think that if you have a passion for each other, it’s often easier to get through the difficult bits of a long marriage than if you merely want to avoid them. The problem is that most people who say they want to stay married don’t actually mean it — they just want things to be the same way they were before, just better in some way.
The trick is not to try and fix what isn’t broken, but to make it different…
There has been little discussion at all on how marriage needs to change — how better communication, empathy and communication skills need to change — how sex might become more intimate or less pornographic or how children might grow up differently from their parents. I have always assumed that these changes would come about organically over time, which gives me hope; but even so, I don’t know what kind of changes will take place in my lifetime…
Maybe there isn’t much hope for me; maybe we stay exactly where we are now for ever…
The Pros of a Middle-Aged Wife's 15 Minute Workout
So, you've heard a lot about the benefits of marriage, but how about the cons?
There are a number of advantages to marriage. The most obvious is that you'll always be together. But many couples have trouble accepting this fact in their lives.
Let me give you an example: A few years ago, I was driving my wife and I to work every morning and evening. We had a long commute, but we always made it. We could get to work before rush hour and usually arrived at our office around lunchtime. At least 30 minutes after our usual time, we'd get back into the car and drive another 30 minutes or so. This worked down to 5-minute increments in the morning and 5-minute increments in the evening -- not that it was exactly 15-minutes long (15 minutes is just too easy to time) -- but it was close enough for us both to function from morning through evening when everything else had finished up. This worked out great for all involved until one day we decided that instead of putting our 8:30am-10:00am commute on hold, we would end it right on time at 10:00am instead (which is also an hour later than normal). And so began another round of arguments over which schedule worked better, who was going first while they were at work or who would drive home first while she went to bed (this also started when they were both 15 years old). In retrospect, I can see that this wasn't so much a problem as an opportunity: 10:00am works out perfectly for both of us -- because we're never home before 11pm anymore -- but it's not ideal for the other person if he/she has to come home late at night for any reason (which happens sometimes...), especially since he/she can't go straight home from work like he/she used to anyway (he/she still has a job!). It takes some getting used to after 20 years together, but people have been doing this since time immemorial (until recently as well). And now that I'm 47 years old and married with two kids, I can't believe how much longer I'm able to stay out until 9pm without having said goodbye by then!
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